Underinformed

I did get a very curt message back from the satellite IVF Clinic’s nurse:

“Good day. We are need to arrange finical details prior to proceeding.  Once the cycle is ready to proceed, you will be notified. Sincerely, [Nurse].”

I’m not even going to touch on the grammar and spelling. But honestly, I very sincerely hope that this isn’t how they treat women trying to get pregnant with their own children after who knows how much trial and tribulation. I did forward the response to the main IVF Clinic. The woman with whom I had been corresponding called to explain that the main Clinic only deals with fresh embryo cycles, so that’s why I’m dealing with the satellite Clinic instead, and that she was very sorry I felt blown off.

It’s been two weeks now. I haven’t heard a PEEP out of the satellite Clinic. What I HAVE heard is from I.F. who says he was told that the financial coordinator is waiting for the final prescriptions to come from the IVF doctor so that they can send the payment and schedule the cycle. Apparently he was told that this should go very quickly. Would be nice if they bothered to share this information with me, as I’m the one who’s going to be traveling for the transfer and carrying the baby to term.

I’m basically in frustration mode, generally speaking, lately. So maybe I’m overreacting to this. Suffice it to say that I have recent reason to truly appreciate the family and friends I have who make it clear by their actions that they do care about me, and on whom I can unfailingly count for support.

Legwork

Lacking the full medical details from the photos and report of the hysteroscopy, I understand that I have been cleared to proceed with surrogacy number two. What a fiasco it was to get the photos and report to the IVF clinic, though!

First the big hospital called me to ask how I wanted them to send the photos… To me. Um, sorry, I’m not driving 3+ hours, including traffic, to deliver what turned out to be only have of what the IVF clinic needed. I asked if they could scan and email the photos, and the nurse to whom I spoke said she would check and get back to me. Then the woman from the IVF clinic told me that often scanned images wind up being distorted, so would I please ask the big hospital to mail the photos. I did so. Then the woman from the IVF clinic emails me to ask about a report (which the nurse had originally told me did not exist.) We went back and forth on this a couple times, so I finally broke down and called the big hospital to ask that the report be faxed to the woman at the IVF clinic. I did not receive any notification that this had been done until the woman from the IVF clinic emailed to tell me that I was good to go for surrobaby number two, and that I should reach out to the IVF doctor’s nurse to get information on dates.

Ok people, seriously?! Why should I have to do all the legwork? Is it so much to expect that the doctors talk to each other?! The IVF clinic ordered the hysteroscopy in the first place. I didn’t have to sign any release of information forms. I was not harangued about confidentiality when I called to ask that the photos and report be send to the IVF clinic, so why couldn’t they make the call, themselves? Is it so much to expect that their nurses contact me without being prompted? Isn’t it their job to contact patients to schedule procedures and keep them abreast of their situations? I don’t remember being held responsible for nearly this much of the process last time. I had to call the pharmacy before I ran out of meds, and once I was given the go-ahead from the IVF doctor to transfer to a regular OB, I made those arrangements. I’m not really angry per se, but I am definitely annoyed.

I emailed the IVF doctor’s nurse this morning (I was indirectly provided her email address by the woman at the IVF clinic, who incidentally is working in a different city altogether). Haven’t heard back yet. -grumble-