Questions

Given that there's an impending meeting in my future, I thought I'd go ahead and come up with some questions for the intended father. It occurred to me as I was writing them out, though; that they might be appropriate for any potential intended parent, whether for me or for someone else.

1.) What kind of involvement would you like to have in the pregnancy?
   a.) Attend doctor's appointments with me, when possible?
   b.) Attend birthing classes, either with or parallel to me?
*I've been to so many birthing classes as a "doula" that I don't feel I need any more, but will go if asked.
   c.) Read up on pregnancy, labor and delivery?
*I can name a good number of wonderful books!
   d.) Visits, phone calls, etc.? 
*I think it would be beneficial for an intended parent to familiarize the child with his/her voice in utero.

2.) Do you want to be part of the birth process, or would you prefer to be a witness to the delivery?

3.) What kind of birth would you like for your child, ideally?
*I would prefer to avoid intervention as much as possible, because I believe that normal, natural child birth is best for the baby. And I'd really like to try to avoid C-Section.

4.)   Would you be willing (barring multiples or high-risk) to allow me to see a nurse-midwife for my prenatal and intrapartum care?

5.) If we established a good, healthy relationship during the pregnancy and were all comfortable with the idea postpartum, would you like me to express breast milk for your child? 
*Frozen breast milk will stay good for up to six months